You’ve outlined the steps to making your favorite sandwich. But the more you try to have sex last longer in bed, the faster you finish—and you’re not alone.
Premature ejaculation is a problem that affects almost every man at some point in his life, so dont you worry…there are other helpful tips to solve this nightmare of yours.
There are primarily two methods if you want to last longer in bed: physical and psychological treatments.
While physical remedies target the sensations you feel during sex, psychological solutions address your worry, stress, or other mental factors that may explain your quick trigger.
Just remember that duration isn’t the most important part of the formula for avoiding premature ejaculation and having great sex neither are accessories.
But be warned: Its best trying these out on your own before attempting them during sex.
In general terms, this refers to the idea that you can regulate your own neurophysiology—or the way your body responds to physical sensations.
While there are a lot of different types of biofeedback, he says one of the most common for avoiding premature ejaculation is to bring yourself right to the edge of orgasm before stopping all sexual or masturbatory activity until you have your excitement under control.
Also known as “edging”—one of the 5 Off-Beat Sex Trends to Try—practicing this technique can help you teach your brain and body to better control your orgasm response
Just be sure to use a lot of lotion or lube while you practice edging to avoid chaffing yourself.
2. The Squeeze
If you can feel your orgasm coming on, stop and squeeze right below the head of your penis. Apply firm pressure with your thumb and forefinger and focus the pressure on the urethra—the tube running along the underside of the penis.
The squeeze technique can help you last longer in bed by pushing blood out of the penis and momentarily decreasing sexual tension, which represses the ejaculatory response.
3. Ladies First
When you help her finish first—whether with your mouth, your fingers, or a toy—knowing she’s enjoyed an orgasm may relieve some of the pressure you’re feeling to last longer in bed.
Like the stuff dentists slather on your gums before jamming in the needle, there are topical sprays called “local anesthetics” that you can apply to your penis to lessen the sensation and avoid premature ejaculation.When used properly, you can adjust the amount of desensitization with these sprays, and it won’t transfer to your partner.
But be warned: The lack of sensation could make it difficult for you to stay erect during sex.
5. Condom Control
Most major condom manufacturers make extra-thick rubbers that act like a slip-on desensitizer for your member during sex and these can help you avoid premature ejaculation.
Look for marketing lingo like “extended pleasure” (from Trojan) or “performax” (Durex), which are fancy terms for this thicker style of condom.
Plenty of men pop a pill to become erect for sex or make sex last longer though trials show these drugs genuinely benefitted men with premature ejaculation, the FDA sets a very high bar for drugs used to treat non-life threatening conditions.
While you could take these drugs for “off-label” uses like the treatment of premature ejaculation, most of these meds are antidepressants that could lead to mood changes or other side effects—meaning they shouldn’t be used unless your performance problem is seriously affecting your life,so it should be used at last resort and with your doctor’s advice.
7. Ask an Expert
If you feel like you’ve tried everything to have sex last longer without success, it may be time to discuss your problem with a sexual dysfunction specialist.A lot of the treatments we’ve already discussed—edging and biofeedback—are pretty challenging techniques that a specialist can help you use effectively.