Best Ways To Cope/Deal With Bad News Or Situations…

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Your partner cheated on you….bad news

You’ve been fired…..bad news

Your house has been burgled….bad news

You’ve been diagnosed with a life-changing medical problem……What more?

Bad news can leave us in a state of dread and despair. It seems like our whole world is falling apart, almost as if we’re being driven into the ground. We fear for the very worst, and cannot get it out of our mind, or gut. Sometimes, often, there are other emotions mangled in, like anger, guilt, betrayal, helplessness, and love.

Bad news: we’ve all had it, and we’re all going to get through it…

So, how to cope?

1. Deep breathing

Just after receiving bad news, it’s very important to regain control over our emotions. Start by regulating your breathing. Breathe in deeply through your nose and hold the air in for several seconds. Then purse your lips and gradually let the air out. Let out as much air as you can. Carry on until you feel more relaxed.

2. Contextualization

Now that you’ve created some breathing space, try to frame the bad news, to put it into its proper context. However bad it may feel, it is probably not the be-all and end-all of your life on this earth. Think about all the good things in your life, including those that have been and those that are yet to come. And think about all the strengths and resources—the friends, the facilities, the faculties—that you can still draw upon in this time of need. Try to imagine how things could be much, much worse—and how they actually are for some people. Your house may have been burgled. Yes, you lost some valuables, and it’s all such a huge hassle. But you still have your health, your job, your partner… Bad things are bound to hit us now and then, and it can only be a matter of time before they hit us again. In many cases they are just the flip side of the good things that we enjoy. You got burgledBad news because you had a house and valuables. You lost a great relationship because you had one in the first place. In that much, many a bad thing is no more than the removal of a good one. So, relax.

”The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of hell, a hell of heaven.”

3. Negative visualization

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Now focus on the bad news itself. What’s the worst that could happen, and is that really as bad as you’re imagining? Now that you’ve dealt with the worst, what’s the best possible outcome? And what’s the most likely outcome? Maybe someone is threatening to sue you. The worst possible outcome is that you lose the case and suffer all the stress, cost, and hurt that that would entail. Though it’s unlikely, you might even do time in prison (it has happened to some, and a few did rather well out of it). But the most likely outcome is that you reach some sort of out-of-court settlement. And the best possible outcome is that you win the case, or, better still, that it gets dropped.

4. Transformation

Try to transform your bad news into something positive, or at least into something that has positive aspects. Your bad news may represent a learning or strengthening experience, or act as a wake-up call, or force you to reassess your priorities. At the very least, it offers a window into the human condition and an opportunity to exercise dignity and self-control. Maybe you lost your job: time for a holiday and a promotion! Maybe your partner cheated on you. Even so, you feel sure that he or she still loves you. Perhaps you can even understand his or her motives. Yes of course it’s painful, but it may also be an opportunity to forgive, to build a closer intimacy, to re-launch your relationship—or perhaps to find a new one. You’ve been diagnosed with a serious medical condition. Though it’s very bad news, it’s also the chance to get the treatment and support that you need, to take control, to fight back, to look at life and your relationships from another and richer perspective.

5. Self-control

Over the next hours, days, and weeks, as you take it on board and integrate it into your worldview, the bad news will begin to lose its bite. In the meanwhile, it can be tempting to distract yourself with keeping busy, to rush ahead and do everything possible to reverse or mitigate your bad luck. Beware of acting rashly, depleting your resources, and making a bad situation worse. Instead, take a step back and prioritise. Think laterally, act strategically, and keep in mind that gentle action, or even no action at all, may well be your best option. Instead of replaying the past or fretting for the future, focus on what is firmly within your control. If someone is making you suffer, think how much more they must be suffering, and try to feel their pain and understand where they’re coming from.6. Support

When we feel threatened and vulnerable, or simply overwhelmed, there’s nothing more natural than to reach out to one or several others for advice, perspective, and reassurance, or just for a hand to squeeze. But it’s important to go to the right person, someone who will know how to listen, and how to respond, and who won’t just make things worse. If you can’t find anyone suitable, or you’re after something more structured, you can seek out professional support from a counsellor, pastor, or doctor, or call one of several helplines. If you turn to the Internet for information and support, beware of unverified web pages and open chat rooms. Being with others can help us to work through our thoughts and feelings and regain calm and perspective. Other activities that can help with this include spending time in nature and enjoying or engaging in art, including writing, painting, and music.

7. Physical wellbeing

Calm and perspective depend upon mental wellbeing which in turn depends, to a large extent, upon physical wellbeing. Be kind to yourself. In particular, make sure that you get enough sleep and exercise, while also avoiding numbing behaviours such as binge drinking and drug taking. For advice on sleeping, see my article, The Best Sleeping Position For Pregnant Mothers.With regard to psychological health, exercise—even mild exercise such as walking or gardening—decreases stress, improves concentration and memory, boosts self-esteem, and directly lifts mood through the release of natural antidepressants called endorphins. Other ways to give your endorphins a boost include: holding someone’s hand, giving and receiving massage, having a hot bath, laughing, singing, lighting a scented candle, and enjoying a delicious meal.

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